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The Myth of "Feeling It First"

Many couples wait for the "feeling" of romance to return before they start acting romantic. This is the wrong approach. Contrary to popular belief, our emotions often follow our actions.

Many times, we may not feel inclined to do something until we actually start doing it. In marriage, actively displaying love through actions can ignite genuine feelings of affection towards our partners. Even if feelings seem buried under life's complexities, they can always be unearthed through intentional action.

The Lesson of the Michael Jordan T-Shirt

Value determines how we treat things. Years ago, I bought a Michael Jordan T-shirt for $23. I treated it like treasure, hanging it carefully in a special spot. It was valuable to me.

Ten years later, my wife found the same shirt at a rummage sale for 25 cents. Because the cost was low, I used that shirt for painting. I didn't care if it got dirty; it was disposable.

The Lesson: When you place high value on your spouse, you protect and take care of them. When value drops, neglect sets in. We help you restore that value.

Start with "The Greeting"

One way we can show how much we value our spouse is through our greetings. Who greets you best? Usually, it's the family dog—wagging its tail, thrilled to see you. We should aim to be just as excited to see our spouse.

The "Honey I'm Home" Rule: Give your spouse a heads-up so they can greet you warmly.
Excitement Matters: Proverbs 15 talks about how bright eyes gladden the heart. Show excitement when they walk in the room.
Prioritize Them: When friends visit, we drop everything to greet them. Shouldn't our spouses receive even greater honor?

"Fixing relationship issues isn't about dwelling on problems; it's about learning and implementing solutions. Solutions are the antidote to problems."

If you act the part, the feelings will follow. We have seen it happen for countless couples, and it can happen for you.

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About Dr. Don Schaefer

Don and his wife Shirley have been married for over 52 years. Don has dedicated his life to teaching couples that love is a verb—something you do, which leads to something you feel.

Through Married For Life, he provides the practical tools to unearth the buried treasures of emotion in your relationship.